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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You actually let your hild go fix himself something he "liked" after an adult prepared a full dinner? 
You honestly think that was ok?[/quote]

Not OP, but I allow my kids to do this and I 100% think it's okay.  If my kids don't like dinner, they are free to make a sandwich and eat it with a piece of fruit. I am not doing it for them, but I don't make them eat what I have prepared.

It's a rule at our house that the kids have to try anything new, and they have to be polite when they decline to eat it,  but they don't have to eat stuff they don't like.  That is freakishly controlling.

Not every person cares for the same foods. People should not be forced to eat things that they don't enjoy. Food should be a pleasure, not a punishment, and people should have control over what they put in their own bodies.[/quote]

This is too sane and reasonable. The DCUMers will never go for it. [/quote]

How do you handle it when you aren't at home?

I'm thinking of implementing a similar  system with my kids, but  I don't want it to be an issue when we eat out. Do you pack things they like? Ask hosts to provide certain dishes?

Are you serious?  Teach your kids to politely decline at someone's home.  Are you going to ask people to provide your kids with chicken nuggets?

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He sharing of food is an important social custom and understood contract. Learning how to be a gracious guest is an important skill. Because something your host is serving isn't something you "like" is no excuse to miss the essence of being gracious and polite. I've known this since I was probably 4, and could act accordingly. I've eaten hundreds of meals that I didn't "like" that have not killed me, nor did they kill me as a child.

I know this goes against the prevailing precious snowflake direction on this board, but there is no reason a 7 year old cannot learn to have a sit down dinner with guests and learn to eat what is there, despite his like or dislike for it. Had I been there, I would have rolled my eyes too.

Hey - you want to let yr 7 year old run the show at dinner most nights - well, you be you. But he should also learn what it is do have a sit down dinner with guests (even if they are family) and to engage in participating in the meal that is served, even if it does not serve best to his 7 year old preferences. [/quote]

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