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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are the consequences of this behavior?  Does he have a cell phone, video games, or outside activities that get taken away?  Do you make sure there are no electronics in his bedroom.  Have you take the hinges off his door because he lost privacy?

Because I would never in a million years tolerate that mental/physical abuse you are allowing to take over your home.  You need someone to come into the home, evaluate the entire situation and take over with advice/solutions.  A home counselor.  Similar to Super Nanny.  I remember people posting recommendations here awhile back.  Something went wrong somewhere and it needs to be fixed ASAP. [/quote]

I am so glad you think you wouldn't tolerate the situation and that clamping down is the answer.  Don't you think we tried that?  Talk to me when you have a child in your life that might have a mental illness. It's nothing like the parenting books, or how we were parented, etc. could prepare you for.  It is heartbreaking, overwhelming, and awful.  And it is the judgement of people like you that make the whole thing that much more painful and isolating.   It's easy to armchair quarterback.  I did it myself before being in this situation.  And let me tell you it is humbling like you cannot imagine.  [/quote]

I grew up in a family with a mentally ill   brother. To this day I can't tell you how many people had an "opinion" about how to manage my brother, our family all of the issues that arose from him. Not one of them had ever actually lived with a mentally ill family member. Its easy to apply rules to kids that are "normal" mental illness is the most difficult experience to  deal with. You never know what will happen next, my brother was on meds, lived away from home, in mental hospitals etc. Unfortunately I wish I had a positive ending - my brother is still mentally ill and now that my parents are deceased I am the one that has to manage his live  and find a way to get through my own each and every day. I'm sorry to hear what you are going through and hope that you find a balance in your live that works. [/quote]

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