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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I sort of know my husband was not given the best environment as a kid, and every now and then he lets slip a glimpse of exactly how bad it was. It is the one thing I know that he struggles with and I don't ask him about it, even though I know there is more to the story than he has ever said.  I am trying to imagine if someone came up to me with something similar to what OP has been told. No, ,I don't think I need to know it and I think for me (and definitely my husband) it would be sort of humiliating to think that people are gossiping about it. [/quote]
Exactly. But selfish op doesn't give a shit. She adores the opportunity to engage in gossip by some unknown individual.[/quote]

Honestly, different strokes.. I am with OP, I cannot even imagine feeling that something in my partner's life was a tough experience and not gently branching out to him and help him talk about it. My DH had an awful stepdad for a few years. Like most men he looked like he didn't "want to talk about it". But when approached the right way he did, he talked, and talked. And I can see the bottled resentment coming out, and the knots in his body opening. My goodness, he is so much happier when he doesn't have to hide that part of his history and hear me say "yes that guy was awful, those 3 years were horrible and you are right to still be pissed off about it".

I can't imagine letting that kind of story hide under the rug and fester some nasty resentment.. Have you guys ever heard about talk therapy? Are you still living in Victorian England? [/quote]

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