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[quote=Anonymous]OP, when I married my now DH, he was unemployed and with no seeming job prospects. So I would never advise you to ditch someone because they do not make enough.

But I would advise you to think long and hard if you can have a viable future with someone where between the two of you there appears no possibility of shaking financial insecurity and even hardship, and affording children seems quite impossible.

When I married my DH, he may not have had a job, but he also had no outstanding obligations (debt or family) and I was making enough to support us (and any future children) comfortably. He was also hard-working and determined so I knew something would work out for him eventually (and he does have a well-paying job now) but the point was even if it never worked out, there was enough money to live on.

You guys need to seriously get on the same page and figure out your future finances meticulously - such as figuring out if you (either of you) are on a trajectory to make more money. Or whether you can agree to stop paying for his family. Or figure out how to move to a lower cost of living area.

Love is wonderful but being poor is not. As someone who has been poor as a child, that is not something I would ever subject my children to if I had a choice.[/quote]

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