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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had the same problem when my kids were small, OP --- but with my OWN parents!  It drove DH and I crazy but we made the decision together and stuck together on it.  I dealt with it since it was my parents (not fair to make your spouse deals with your difficult parents).  My dad was the problem.  He just believes that staying in an hotel isn't visiting family and no matter how much we explained and talked it through with him (my mom tried many times too) he refused to stay in a hotel.  My parents are very well off (millions) it was totally not about money.  I know his feelings were hurt and I tried so hard to soothe him but, he decided to make it about feelings instead of comfort/convenience/space and he refused to budge.  The end result is my mom would come by herself.  And, the kicker in my situation, when she came by herself she would  stay with us because 1.) one person was much easier to accommodate, 2.) she is an easy and helpful guest, unlike my dad, and 3) no one wanted her staying all alone in a hotel.  But it just equaled a bad situation.

End result, my dad looked like an ass to everyone but himself and he lost out not getting to see his grandkids and me very often (and he does still love me and I love him). [b] We now have a house that has a guest bedroom but they don't come because he has gotten too old and physically fragile to visit.[/[/b]quote]

How sad.  Do you wish now that you had  backed down?

Having tons of people in my house would make me crazy but this post should give us some perspective. [/quote]

Good God no!!  Having my dad stay with us when it would have caused mounds of stress and discomfort would have led to much worse such as unbearable tension in my marriage, anger and frustration with my father (and vise versa), bad memories for my kids, etc...  We would be in a much worse place all around.  [/quote]

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