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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am one of the pp from page 2---- the last straw was when one of the neighbor kids took our pet gerbil out of the cage  and we asked him not to- the kid said "you are not my dad!" to my husband.  That, in addition to his wild behavior got him sent home.  Ever since that time the parents acted coldly to us and our relationship tanked.  I was hurt for a while but I realized how much they were using us for free babysitting and such.  We just say hi now and our kids don't play.  So, something like my experience can happen when you set firm boundaries.  [/quote]

Not OP.  Yes, that can happen, but do you seriously really want the alternative?  Sucking it up and staying silent and having kids disrespect and not listen to you all the time?

People come on!  You are NOT responsible for how other people respond to you.  You can only control yourselves and your family, and everything you do is modeling behaviors for your kids.  So if you let other kids disrespect you, wreak havoc in your house, not clean up and act rudely, and maybe even your kids don't like having them over, you're basically teaching your kids that there's nothing they can do, they just have to deal with it.

Bullcrap.

You're the adults in the situation and it's your house.  If the kids are rude and have no manners, we all know where that starts.  If the same parents who don't teach their kids to respect other people's houses or rules are going to be cold and freeze you out, why is that somehow a bigger problem or bigger risk than you having some peace restored and teaching your kids that when kids act like that, they lose the privilege of playdates at your house?

And really, why is it so important to stay on the good side of parents like that anyway, even if you see them everywhere?  We live in a part of DC where everyone knows everyone, and there are parents whose kids I've had to redirect on the playground or even at birthday parties.  They may get a bit huffy but in the end, I don't do it unless the other kids are seriously out of control, and by then I'm clear I wouldn't want my kids at their houses anyway because really, what will my kids learn there?  I'm good, and honestly, we're all cordial and it hasn't become a big deal. But even if it did, I'd be ok with that.  My home as a stable play environment is much more important.[/quote]

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