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[quote=Anonymous]I'm the PP with the advice for the safety expert, and want to say great advice by some PPs.

I want to mention one other thing, and that is, if Pap's intentions are not benevolent, then he will *create* a situation where DD will want to be alone with him.  So, for example, he will find out what movie DD wants to see desperately, then rent it and send ex-DH out for pizza.  In an earlier post, I mentioned this scenario where DD just has to suck it up and go with her dad, but what I failed to mention is that scenarios like these will not come by accident--they will be set up.  So you need to *inoculate* your DD by discussing set-ups like this where she will really want to go with Pap or be with Pap due to what fabulous plan he has created, but that is the time to not go with him.  Basically, the point being that he will find what she loves, and then bait her.

I am also really unhappy to see that Pap's ex-wife sexualizes little girls.  Not sure from your prior post but was she the reason your DD got her ears pierced? yikes, that's huge, OP, not just a t-shirt that can be tossed.  Anyways if Pap is a pedophile, it's more likely than the norm that he married someone whose been abused and so also doesn't get boundaries or the idea that girls should not be sexualized; basically, a healthy woman would not end up with Pap in the first place.  So to me, her behavior backs up my concern about Pap.

You got some good ideas from this board, OP.  Don't let anyone tell you, or your DD, to not follow your gut.  There will ALWAYS be an innocent explanation for everything proposed and done.  You have to look past that and take the harder road.[/quote]

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