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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The bigger issue is not that OP has no friends to throw a shower, but rather that she has no friends.  This will make motherhood isolating.[/quote]

I was 16 years out of HS, 12 out of college before I had my first baby.  Dh and I were working long hours every day and coming home on the weekends to do yardwork and chill out.  Sometimes we had friends over but they were usually other child free couples (no imminent plans to have kids) who wanted to hang out, eat and drink some wine.  Sometimes we went out on the town but not that often.  Many of those folks are still child free.

When I got pregnant, some of my old HS friends and relatives were dealing with teenagers .  Old college friends had moved on, some were newly divorced and back on the dating scene.  My younger sister was really the only person with young kids that I spent any time hanging around...aside from coworkers at work whom I had worked with for years.

Long story short, dh and I weren't friendless but who do you think should have thrown us a baby shower? Our single, beer drinking, fun loving former housemate?  I wasn't exactly running with the "mommy crowd" and no way would I have put them on the spot like that.  If my sister or my mom had thrown us a shower I really do think that would have been FINE.  As it turns out, I had a shower at work thrown by my coworkers.

When my first was born I opted to SAH.  I made it a point to get out there and meet other moms.  But it took time to form solid friendships with other moms.  It happened, just not right away.  Some of those ladies are still my friends over a decade later :).

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