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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a fascinating discussion.

I agree with those who say that fat is really just an adjective - not really any different than calling someone bald, short, or many other negative characteristics.

I also think that getting really fat after marriage threatens that marriage. Weight is something that almost everyone can control, with a few rare medical exceptions. It is time for people to take responsibility for their bodies and not just call their partners shallow for no longer being attracted to them.

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Actually, study after study has shown that once you have become fat (I'm talking fat, not just a few pounds over ideal weight), it is almost [b]impossible[/b][u] for the vast majority of people to lose weight and keep it off over time.  Losing the weight is not that hard, but keeping it off is.   Here's just one quick article on this phenomenon:

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/magazine/tara-parker-pope-fat-trap.html?_r=0

There are always a few outliers in each study who are able to lose substantial amounts of weight and keep it off...interviews and studies of these people show that, essentially, maintaining their weight has to become and stay their top priority for the rest of their lives.  They have to exercise substantially more and eat substantially less than people who were never fat, even though they are not currently fat and haven't been so for years.

I don't know how long OP has been fat or how substantially fat she is, but for many people who have been obese for years, it is VERY possible to become healthier -- more fit, stronger, more flexible, and with good "numbers" for blood sugar, blood pressure, cholesterol, etc.  But even with substantial lifestyle changes that result in better health, they may not lose the weight and keep it off.  Their body shape may remain larger, but that doesn't mean that they can't be healthier.

If PP's wife falls into this category, what he may need to resolve himself to accept is that she can be stronger, healthier, fitter, more energetic, and still stay fat.  Can he still love her, respect her, cherish her, and honor her?  [/quote]

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