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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother regularly lied to my teachers and school. She would lie about the reasons I was late for class, why I left school without being signed out, or why I didn't do my homework. She didn't want me to get in trouble for these things, so would make excuses. The truth was that she was an alcoholic and my home life was chaotic. I was late or not picked up because she was passed out. I didn't do my homework because I was busy fending for myself.

I'm sure the teachers saw through the lies, but what could they do? OP, be careful what you wish for. Sometimes, you really don't want the truth. [/quote]

I have a similar story, PP.  I was also the kid who'd seemingly flake on homework assignments or go from straight As to Ds in one semester or have a spate of absences.  My truth was my dad was a raging alcoholic who'd often pull me out of bed in the middle of the night to answer for some perceived wrongdoing/transgression or to clean up a "mess" I made.  I was putting my bike away at 2 a.m. or cleaning a bathroom at midnight or listening to my parents scream at each other for hours.

My mom, ever the enabler, would just let me sleep late, or miss school or write  a note to my teacher saying that I was sick or needed an extension on the homework.  Not one teacher ever asked me further questions or expressed concern.  One high school math teacher suggested I get tested for a learning disability, called my parents and asked if they'd come in to discuss this with a school resource teacher.  My dad shut it down, said no kid of his was "terrible R-word we no longer use" and conceded that I could get a student math tutor.

My suggestion...ask the questions you want answers to in different way and call in the experts for back up.

By the way, I grew up in a large local school district.[/quote]

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