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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The standard for involuntary commitment is danger to self and others, as it should be. Imagine if we could force people to basically be incarcerated because we think they're not living the way they should? In this person's case he's got a place to live, isn't being violent, and [b]his next of kin want things to stay the way they are[/b].

It's a slam-dunk case for watching, waiting, staying in the loop and [b]positioning oneself to get benefits when he no longer has the option of a free ride with the parents[/b]. [/quote]

But it's no slam dunk that the OP's brother will ever accept beneifits at all. He believes he doesn't need anything because he's rich! If he believes that now, it won't necessarily change his tune when mom and dad die. Instead, he might just decide OP is another person who's out to get him because she keeps insisting he needs help he doesn't need, because he's[i] rich[/i].

It's so easy on here to say "Just wait and watch and get him benefits later when your folks die." Not so easy for OP to do.

As for OP staying in the loop, I would wager that the parents aren't telling OP the half of brother's statements and beliefs, because they just don't want to deal with the fact he's delusional, and sadly they are trying to live out their lives just keeping their heads down and muddling through.  "His next of kin want things to stay the way they are" because that's what exhausted, emotionally beaten people do--just live with the situation as long as he's not violent or volatile. They aren't letting "things stay the way they are" out of some kind of acceptance or approval of his mental illness, or because their own lives with him are happy.

OP, I really feel for you. When mental illness is like your brother's, it is, as other posts have noted, nearly impossible to force help on anyone. Whatever happens, please heed the person who posted earlier that you should never, ever have your brother live with you. Imagine trying to "get him on his feet" and then he won't leave, or worse, he decides what's yours really should be his, or he decides you or your family are part of the persecution against him. Help, yes, but don't let him under your roof, for your family's sake.[/quote]

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