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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would I hit my child...call it what it is: hitting. I'd never hit my child. It's ineffective as a disciplinary tool, since discipline means to [i]teach[/i]ie to help your child understand the right way to behave. Hitting them does not teach them the right way to behave; it just teaches them what not to do to avoid getting hit.[/quote]

If that were the only thing you do, then you'd be right. Since it's just the punishment portion, it works well as a complement to the teaching aspect. Same as any other punishment, only more effective. If all you ever did was to take away toys and issue timeouts, that wouldn't work, either.[/quote]

Except a lot of people don't incorporate a teaching component with their punishment. And, if you are an effective teacher in teaching them how to behave, you don't need to hit them as well to get your point across. There are other, better ways to teach your kids how to behave that they can actually learn and grow from instead of blocking out whatever teaching you are trying to do because they are too sidetracked by the fact that you just or are about to HIT them.[/quote]

You can teach them after the spanking. Memory of the spanking will reinforce the teaching.[/quote]

Doubt it. Memory of the spanking will more likely cause them to: a) not respect you or care what you are trying to teach them because they won't see you as a good role model so why would they care what you have to teach them b) harbor resentment toward you and wish that they could hit you back c) wish that they understood why you felt it was necessary to hit them and wonder if you really love them....or at least those are the reactions that I and my siblings had when our parents hit us.[/quote]

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