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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you don't raise your child Jewish b/c of a bar mitzvah? Ridiculous.  Have a small luncheon of something simple at the temple afterward - a nice oneg.  [/quote]

More accurately, PP is not raising their child Jewish because of the bar mitzvah PARTY. Which is not actually a religious requirement.[/quote]

No I am not raising my child in any religion because it is a money-making scam that causes hatred, pain, bigotry and 90% of all wars in the world are religion-based. People only like their kind and don't accept others.  My parents practically disowned me because I married a non-Jewish man.  They were embarrassed.  I hated everything about Hebrew school growing up.  It didn't make me a better person and it actually showed me how much hatred Jewish people have for non-Jewish people.  My husband said the same thing about Bible School.  They teach love and kindness but only under their rules with people of their kind.   If my kids decide they want to practice a religion at anytime, I will be behind them 100%.  But I will not force it onto them.  But yes, the parties are part of the religion whether they are a requirement or not.  The parties are worse than the old MTV sweet 16 show.  It is a show-off on who can outdo each other.  [/quote]
NP here and I feel exactly the same way. My parents weren't too bad about me marrying a non-Jew because my brothers broke that barrier before me but I do feel that most religion is a money grab. Bar/Bat Mitvah celebrations are obnoxious and miss the point entirely. There is nothing on earth that made me more miserable than attending Hebrew school 3 days each week, year after year. [/quote]

Me too with all of this. I never really felt part of the Jewish community or related to Judaism/Jewish culture growing up. As a young adult i didn't even identify myself as Jewish. Eventually joined a Protestant church that i feel is welcoming and a good fit for me. Yes my family sort of flipped out. My sister basically disowned me.  This did nothing to change my mind, in fact it sealed the deal. The Bar Mitzvah culture here is OBSCENE. $10,000 freaking dollars for a party and that is a low-ball amount. No thanks. I'd rather contribute what i can to my church and feel good about where the money goes (serving the entire community, not the Christian community exclusively). And fwiw my kids love Sunday School. Twin 16 year olds and a 12 year old.  
I agree with the pp who said she didn't think it was right to force a religion on her kids. But we really do enjoy our church, nothing is forced and they are welcome to choose what they want later. I am not opposed to religion in general. I just need to be able to get something out of it and Jewish was not my thing. I had no idea i had company with this! So glad to know i am not a freak![/quote]

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