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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a 31 year old married mother of a toddler and I hate it.  I work a demanding job that eats up a lot of my week.  When I get home, it's time for chores and negotiating child care with DH.  We have a housekeeper who comes a couple of times a week and we have a nanny who provides reliable care for our child. But it's still so damn hard.

In the little time I have to myself, I am trying to maintain friendships and see family and attend 50-11 engagement parties, weddings, baby showers, wedding showers, baby christenings/brises, birthday parties etc.  Every time I turn around, it's some holiday that I should spend with family or they'll complain.  I am also supposed to find time to network and build my visibility in my profession.  Oh and DH and I haven't had sex in weeks, so time to get on that.  Even vacations are stressful because the to-do list is just waiting for me and DS's sleep/nap routine gets messed up.

Is this all there is to life as a married working mother?

I remember the days when I backpacked and traveled and had interests and time for those interests.  My job still sucked, but the time I had outside it was mine.  I remember when I always had fun plans.  I remember when I had energy.  I am still slim and toned and I look put together, but I am not enjoying this life at all.

I know there are so many perfect moms on this board (whatever).  For those who are not posing, however, can you relate?  How do you manage so that life is not just an endless cycle of work- and chore-filled days?[/quote]

Too bad you got married and had a kid so young.  You certainly could have packed in another 5 years of actual living / embracing your freedom.   Oh well. [/quote]

I had my first child at 27, second at 30, so I started younger than OP. I also work and have a nanny, housekeeper, and housecleaners. I do not feel like the OP. I don't grocery shop, I have someone who meal preps, and I don't do any laundry (and this is just naming the majors). My kids are older now and wayyyy harder than toddlers. Right now we have sports each night from 5:30-7pm monday- thursday. It is hectic. DH and I have no time for chores, hence we spend the money on housekeepers.

OP sounds like she has the same kind of help so I'm not sure what the problem is. I love being a mother and am happy to be a "young mom". Our last child will be out of the house when we are 48 and we will have the time and money to do the stuff we "missed". [/quote]

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