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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do all of you who think that adult children should have a say in their widowed parents romantic life's believe that parents should similarly be entitled to mettle in your adult relationships, marriage etc?  [/quote]

OP never, ever once claimed she should have a say. In fact no PPs have either. They said it can hurt. Don't pretend like moving on to marriage after death very quickly is the same as a previously single parent having another chapter in their "romantic life". Its not.[/quote] Perhaps "having a say" was a bad choice of words, but plenty of posters expressed judgment, anger, hurts etc. when their parent found a new partner or "replaced" the deceased parent. Those same individuals would most likely be upset if their parents expressed negative emotions about their marriage choices or romantic life. Your grieving and their desire to try and a grab some happiness are not and should not be entertained--assuming we are talking about adults and not children who have recently lost a parent. Too many people on this site complain about clingy parents, or bemoaning the lack of food dating partners. If someone can find happiness after grief, no one should judge them. [/quote]

If you have not been through this with your own parent then quit judging.

[/quote] why would you assume I have not been through this myself? My grief and my parent's grief and desire to make a new life are two separate things. I have no more right to dictate someone else's life choices than they have to dictate mine--adult/parent relationships are no different in this regard. Life is short each and everyone needs to grab whatever happiness we can find and no adult child should try to stop or resent their parent for finding love again after their spouse dies. [/quote]

So your father or mother met someone online and married them weeks or months after the other parent passed?[/quote]

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