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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hmmm. Wondering if she helped put you through grad school? Something doesn't seem right about this.[/quote]

She would have reaped the benefits of that during the marriage and via equity in the house. She didn't deserve 10 years alimony. Not OP, by the way.[/quote]

Maybe OP just had a really shitty lawyer. [/quote]

OP here. You can say that again. It's hard to see when you're in the thick of it.[/quote]

I was the PP who said you maybe had a shitty lawyer. I'm a lawyer myself who actually doesn't practice family law but got an A+ (my only one!) at Harvard Law in that subject. I have also been in a bad marriage. I totally understand. You just do the best you can at the time. Can't blame yourself and bitterness helps no one :)[/quote]

Thanks! I don't feel bitter anymore. Mostly just want it over with. Part of me still can't understand. I am genuinely a good person and always tried to do the right thing. When I married her she was a single mother on welfare. Her child's father was in prison and never contributed a dime to the care of his child. 
I gave them both a good stable life. In return I got a miserable, lazy woman that was physically and emotionally abusive to me. She was a very unhappy woman and we were very unhappy together. I really don't understand how she feels like she's owed anything. That will always boggle my mind. [/quote]

How did you not appreciate that she was a miserable, lazy person before you married her? I mean, people can keep up a facade for a while, but over time these things come out. Unless you rushed into marriage within the first few months of knowing her, I don't really see how you were blindsided by this.[/quote]

I was young inexperienced and stupid. Didn't live with her prior to marriage so I didn't know her as well as I could have. I wasn't blind sighted as much as she worsened over time. [/quote]

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