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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dr Black does not take insurance.

The Neuropsych will run $4400.  Not sure about Peers, 2-3k?[/quote]

OP. We cannot afford this! There must be people who do this who take insurance? Does anyone know? 
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It will be cheaper than sending her off to college expecting her to fail.

The problem with "you have to let your child fail, to allow them to succeed" does not work when the child has SNs.  OP DD does not have the tools to cope.  For instance, being able to recognize when one needs help and asking for help.[/quote]

It's too late! We've already paid her tuition, for the first semester.

I agree that we need to support her, but at some point, she must accept that she's disabled. She has to learn to recognize when she needs help. How will she survive if she doesn't develop this skill? I can't tell her this. She has to see that she can't succeed at college without help. She knows intellectually that she has issues, but she's been a top athlete and a great student at her high school. She has never failed, in large part because we have supported her. We're not withdrawing support, but she will have to take care of herself on her own at college. She's going to have to learn how much she can/can't do without living at home, and I can't tell her. So, yes, I suppose we are sending her off, expecting failure. It's a pretty terrible situation for a parent to be in. [/quote]

Just bc your DD is a top athlete and gets great grades does not mean she is "recovered" and you should send her out "to see for herself".  I know lots of people with ASD or ADHD or both who did just fine without a diagnosis or supports in college but they were able to pack themselves.  If your top student/athlete is unable to organize herself to GO to college not sure how you can expect her to succeed there.

Also, most everyone I know who were diagnosed with ASD or ADHD as adults all wish they were diagnosed sooner.  I know I do.[/quote]

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