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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The envy that some working moms display in every thread pertaining to stay at homes is just embarrassing. I work a big law job with shitty hours, but I don't resent women who stay home enjoying their husbands' money and taking care of their children. It is not stay at home moms' fault that being a working mom sucks so badly from absolutely hostile work environments to ridiculous child care costs.  I fully admit that I love having my own money, but hate being away from my kids and actually hate my job and coworkers too. I hear other working moms claiming to love working so much, but if you were having such a good time, you wouldn't be so bitter towards stay at homes.  [/quote]

I love my job, love my coworkers, and my kids are thriving.  I'm sorry your job sucks, but not every working parent is miserable.[/quote]

And, regardless of what people in these threads love to claim, I'm a WOHM who is not jealous at all of SAHMs. I didn't go to a top school and then get an MBA in finance to be a maid/personal assistant, and I wouldn't put myself in a position (e.g., marrying someone super-ambitious) where there would be so much pressure for me to take on that role. [/quote]

I am not an MBA and am okay to be the support person (personal assistant/maid is another way to say it!) for my DH. But you make a damn good point about choosing to marry someone less ambitious. I see ambition as an important, desirable quality but i might advise my daughters to be wary of getting forced into a certain role as you describe. While I was not "forced" this was because I was willing - had I been more ambitious career wise we would have had a BIG problem. we did, however, have lots of problems that stemmed from an unbalanced relationship. [/quote]

The original question was about "executive" husbands and there is definitely a subset of families where the wife stays home not just for the kids but because the family can afford it and it makes things easier for everyone. I have zero interest in becoming one of those families. My husband has a JD from a top law school and had the choice of the biglaw or government route. If he had gone biglaw, I doubt I'd be working now---and I'd be resentful and unhappy about shouldering most of the parenting and most of the household stuff. He decided to go into government in part so he would have more time with the kids and in part because he knew how hard it would be for us both to work if one of us had that kind of career. (Not impossible, but hard.) [/quote]

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