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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please please please stick to your guns on this one.  A Christmas tree is an overtly Christian symbol and it will only confuse your little ones, who already face enough pressure to assimilate. Your stepdaughter needs to respect your rules in your home.  If she wants to celebrate Christmas, she can do it elsewhere.[/quote]

The stepdaughter didn't bring it up; OP's DH did. He wants to have it in their home this Christmas and asked where they should put it, not whether they should have one.  Those little ones are his children, too. [/quote]

DH agreed to raise their kids a certain way.  Now he's trying to change their agreement midstream.  OP doesn't have to accept that.[/quote]

He doesn't appear to be trying to change the way the children with OP are raised. Instead, he is honoring the beliefs of his child with his previous wife. That child is his just as much as the younger ones are.

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I take it you're not jewish.  Being a Jew means fighting against thousands of years of attempts to annihilate and assimilate your people into the dominant culture.  That means drawing a hard line and not allowing your kids to dabble in other religions for fun and means maintaining a Jewish home.  Husband is now moving the goalposts and trying to walk back his commitment to maintaining that Jewish home.  That IS changing the way OP'a kids are being raised.[/quote]

I think you're taking a harder line here than OP.  I mean, OP intermarried and her husband didn't convert.  She's likely already failed according to your standards of appropriate levels of Judaism.

OP - I think it says a lot that your DH raised this with you early.  I understand wanting to keep a Jewish home in which your kids see their heritage and beliefs reflected.  But I think you have the opportunity to teach them an equally important lesson here about religious tolerance and respect.  Talk to your SD and ask her what she wants.  Be open to hearing that she'd love to share her tradition of a small christmas tree and handmade ornaments with your children, her siblings.  [/quote]

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