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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being a mom is not the biggest thing in my life. But, I don't like kids, and I'm not hugely sentimental. [/quote]

If you don't like kids why did you choose to become a mom? Serious question, no snark.[/quote]

Because my husband very badly wanted to be a father, and I want him to remain my husband. So he's the main parent, and we have a nanny while I work full time even though financially I don't need to. [/quote]

How old is your kid?  I hope you're saving for therapy because he or she can likely tell you're not into parenting and will need counseling down the line.[/quote]

So I guess all the kids with dads who work full time who let the mom be the main parent should start saving for therapy. There's going to need to be a lot of therapists in the future.[/quote]

NP here.  Yep, disengagement/detachment from either parent can screw up a child.  And screwed up people don't necessarily go into therapy, unfortunately.  They just keep having miserable lives.

In terms of fathers disengaging, I can't tell you how many girlfriends I have who have really unhealthy relationships with men, because of the issues they have with their father.  I also have male friends who have huge anger/abandonment issues from fathers who either walked out of their lives or who were workaholics and made it clear that their kids were nothing to them.

So, yes, it goes both ways.  Children need parents.  GASP!!!  What a profound discovery.

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I call bullshit.  I'm the main parent.  I'm a woman.  Most of my friends who are women are the main parent.  Or the default parent, as it has recently been described.  It doesn't mean the dads aren't around and don't love their kids.  Grow up, everything isn't so black and white.  I think it's a bullshit double standard.  If a woman acts the way TONS of dads do, then they're causing psychological damage and producing "miserable" people.  [/quote]

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