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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you find something to brag back about?  My own HFA/Aspie DS has all kinds of difficulties but also some startling abilities and insights.  Maybe you could say "Wow that sounds like a lot of parties.  Emily spent the weekend buried in a college level textbook about volcanoes."  Or building a LEGO model of Buckingham Palace, or watching 20 back episodes of Cosmos because she's really interested in black holes, or whatever it is.  I know not every HFA kid is a secret genius but I'm sure there's something wonderful about your daughter that would put being invited to birthday parties in perspective.

Or maybe just "Thank goodness Emily's a bit of a loner.  I don't know how you can stand going to those parties.  The music's always too loud and the pizza is awful."[/quote]

This escalation is what I think actually takes place in thousands of conversations among parents of NT and SN kids every day and it is soooo transparent and tiresome.  It's one of the things that sucks most about this area.  The above conversation is aggressive and odious.[/quote]

Somehow I doubt that the cool stories those of us with HFA kids like to tell about our kiddos' unique talents are perceived by the average parent of perfect NT-athlete-scholar-thespian kid as an "escalation" or in any way threatening, let alone "odious."  And I find the idea that we are not supposed to be openly proud of our kids (just like everyone else) pretty disheartening. Kids pick up on stuff like that.  Of course competitive bragging about children is distasteful wherever it appears, but I see nothing wrong with a SN parent telling their best kid story like everyone else does. [/quote]

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