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Those consequences primarily being that religious assholes will shame them. [/quote]

Nope. Pregnancy,STD's, emotional baggage, being used for only sex etc.[/quote]

It's not your life and the consequences are not yours to deal with, so MYOB. Nobody cares what you think. [/quote]

My daughters = my responsibility  :oops: [/quote]

Which explains nothing about why boys don't face anything nearly like the same social opprobrium for having sex. They can get STDS, emotionally attached, be used for sex, and - if they get someone pregnant - be responsible for the child. So, given the difference between how males are treated versus females - while those concerns may be your actual reasons - they are bullshit pretexts if they are being offered as reasons why slut-shaming is a thing society-wide. [/quote] Wake up. There is a lot of male slut shaming going on now, too. Men don't get the pass they once did for being "players."[/quote]

boys get shamed for being virgins[/quote]

Truth. [/quote]

Honestly, I played around in college - quite happily.  I dated lots, I partied, I regularly made out with guys that I had just met and I made no pretense of being a "good girl".  Some folks looked down on me for it.  I remember a couple of sweet, sincere young men taking me aside and saying "Don't you know how pretty are you??!!" (because to them "pretty" girls didn't do what I was doing, they dated "nice" young men). I also remember a kind college professor who, witnessing some of my antics, assumed that I must have been attempting (in a misguided way) to get my MRS degree and directed one of his mind numbingly boring (but successful!) grad students my way..LOL.  Worst. Date. Ever.  And NO!  I was not looking to get married - but thanks!  Do you think that anyone would have made those assumptions about a guy?  Ha. No.

Long story short.  I had my fun, I experienced heart break, I learned about not only what I liked in a guy but what I did not like (equally important!).  I also eventually settled down and matured, ready for the real thing to come along.

This is not to say that I think that all young men and women should go wild during their college years, not at all.  But I don't view it as necessarily shameful to date (play around with) a wide and varied number of guys when you are single, unattached.  I think it's a stage that some people just need to go through.

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