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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wanted to drop out of high school, squeaked through and graduated with a C average.  I was 17.  I had a job washing dishes and moved out and partied a lot.  After a couple years I got really sick of working a shit job/terrible shifts/working holidays/etc.  I went to CC and a non-selective college, did really well, transferred to a SLAC, graduated with a 3.8, went on to get a Ph.D.

For me, high school was just a terrible environment.  I might have done okay at some kind of alternative free-thinking school.  But at a traditional school, I just couldn't deal with the petty rules and rote thinking.  I'm pretty creative and I learn best from working from the highly theoretical down to the details.  In high school we were supposed to memorize sets of information and then scaffold up and place that info within a theoretical framework-it's really hard for me to learn that way.  I'm also very stubborn.  The minute someone told me I had to go to college, I wasn't going to do it, but as soon as I was out in the world surrounded by people who would never have the chance to go to college, I wanted it and fought for it.  The best thing my parents did was not support me financially.  They gave a small amount of money directly to tuition, but otherwise I had to make it on my own.

Your daughter will make her own path.  If you've put aside any money for college, hold onto it until she has a good plan and has demonstrated an ability to commit and work hard.  If she's interested, talk to her about a variety of tracks.  If she's working, she will figure out her strengths and weaknesses.[/quote]

And my mom was totally embarrassed by me.  Now she brags and tells everyone I'm a doctor, and I'm the one who is embarrassed.[/quote]

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