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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^  PP here.  The cheating spouse is never absolved of responsibility.  I just think it's tougher to cheat without a willing participant.[/quote]

Sure, but cheaters also lie. They say they're separated or divorced. I know people (male and female) who have discovered that their boyfriend/girlfriend was married well after the fact. [/quote]

I would call the supposed ex to verify. [/quote]

Okay, so you, as a single person, meet a person who asks you on a date. On the basis of that interaction, you agree and you have long conversations with the person about various things. In conversation, they mention that they were married previously but are not married now. You say, oh, that's unfortunate, how long ago was that, what is the name of your ex, I need to call them to make sure you're REALLY divorced.

That's really what you'd do, in that situation?[/quote]

I would get to know him and his friends first- before any intimacy.  If he is dodgy about including me in his life, then that would be a HUGE red flag. [/quote]

I watched a young woman friend of mine get completely snowed by a guy. We were all snowed, actually. He was new in town and didn't have many friends, according to him. Just colleagues. They met for dates after work. According to him, he lived pretty far out from downtown (Gaithersburg or something, while working on the Hill) and as a result, they didn't go back to his place. He'd come meet her on the weekend downtown. We (her friends) met the guy, who we thought was nice, funny, friendly and really into our friend. Given that he was actively dating our friend, it really didn't occur to us to ask if he was married. After all, why would a married guy be dating a woman, meeting her friends, etc. They became intimate after maybe 4 or 5 dates (I don't know exactly). Happened at her place.

It turned out that he was married, with a new baby. Wife was home on maternity leave. He wasn't new to town at all, but he was new to his job. His schedule got a lot more complicated when maternity leave was over and my friend got suspicious, started prying, and found out that he was married. She was embarrassed and heartbroken because she really didn't know and really cared about him. No idea what happened to the guy. [/quote]

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