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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it's nice you want to please your spouse. And please the family members. But you are all about pleasing -- way too much about pleasing.

Is your husband somehow pressing you to make this happen? You say he's fine with it. But I think you're not, at heart, since you are having to tie yourself into knots coming up with ideas and compromises. Why does his "fine with it" trump your "this is a ton of work for me"?

Tell him that five dogs in a strange environment that is new to them, especially with one dog who "does not play well with others" so to speak, is a recipe for a dog fight at some point. And if the relatives stay in local dog-friendly hotels instead of with you, they will spend much of their time --that should be spent with your family -- walking the dogs, tending the dogs, worrying about whether the dogs are chewing up the hotel room, complaining about how they had to leave the dogs in the room, or bringing the dogs with them for the whole day since they couldn't leave the dogs alone in the room....

They are adults. They need to act like adults and take responsibility for boarding their own dogs near their own homes. This trip is to see your husband your family. He should be able to explain to them that mixing dogs who don't "know" each other in a setting that is strange to the dogs is extremely unwise and they cannot bring their dogs.

And OP, you need to stand firm and stop coming up with option after option to please other people here. Do you have a "keep the peace, make everyone happy" pattern to your personality? If so -- this is the deal-breaker for that. Unless you want dog fights, or dogs snarling at your kids because the dogs are so wound up over strange house and strange dogs.[/quote]

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