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[quote=Anonymous]Wow, OP, this is stunning.  What an awful boundary violation, and what a horrible situation for you.  I would be LIVID on a daily basis if I were you.   I agree with PP's that she is trying to stake her claim on your home.  Obviously it's a sensitive thing for the teenagers, too, since they used to have their mom in this house, and it must be uncomfortable for them when she is being so pushy and trying to reassert her right to hang out with them in the home that she chose to leave.

May I ask why you and your husband do not choose to move to a new house?  I cannot imagine living in my DH's previous marital home.  One of the major things that I insisted upon when we decided to get married was that we would get a new home together, one that was new to both of us, so that it would not feel like either of us was an interloper in the other's previous life.  And although I met my DH long after he and his ex split, and he had gotten a new home with his daughter after that, we decided it was healthier for all of us to get a new home together rather than my SD internalize it as, "Dad's new wife moved in with us."  Have you ever considered that as part of a solution?  (I know she might still trespass in a home, but there's got to be something in play in that she is making herself a sandwich in a kitchen that used to be "hers", don't you think?)

BTW, how long has this been going on?   How long have you been married?  How long after she moved out did you move in?  And do you and DH have children together?[/quote]

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