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You have NO idea what my agenda is. It might help to ask instead of blindly judging. The teenager in question is talking to his Mom. He does not want to be admitted. He has opened up. The reasons for his depression are known. All of this means that therapy is the first thing to try. Not drugging him. Watching him closely, staying in contact and getting professional help is what he needs - not immediate treatment with pharmaceutical drugs. It's nothing but sad how quickly people with no proper education are to tell OP that what her son needs is medication. Or a psych ward. You judge ME for telling her not to turn to drugs first - yet you have no more knowledge than me and tell her to trust pharmaceutical drugs...okay...

Pharmaceutical drugs are not proven to cure any mental diseases. None of them have ever cured a patient. Some of them sometimes help with some of the symptoms - but at the same time they are proven to do damage. Suicidal thoughts and tendencies as well as actual suicide are proven to be caused by anti depressants for example. That's not something I am making up. Drugs are chemistry messing with people's brains. That is not ever a good thing. I am glad OP seems to have some knowledge of how psychopharmacy really works. It sounds like that's exactly why she is looking for OTHER advice.

So OP. Talking to your son is the best thing you can do right now. Take him seriously, both with him saying he wants to end his life AS WELL as his opinions about therapy, drugs, psych wards etc. Therapy against somebody's will never works. So he needs to be on board with whatever you are going to do. Maybe talking to you is enough. Maybe he needs to find the right therapist. Maybe a support group with kids his age might be the right thing for him. Maybe he needs distraction from the things that depress him. Sports, hobbies etc. I think the most important thing for you personally might be to talk to a therapist yourself and get proper advice there because this board is anonymous strangers...you don't know what anyone on here really knows or doesn't know. Best to be on the safe side and get professional help.[/quote]

Thank you PP.  Your advice is sound.  Being a medical professional I know what impact pharmaceuticals have and I am not interested in heading down that path RIGHT NOW.  Young minds are complicated as is, I'm not going to mess with them further adding chemicals in the mix that he may be dependent on the rest of his life unless he needs it.  He's been going to the gym with me or his dad, talking to a therapist (although he says it's "stupid"), having his friends over (they are still here since Friday and holy crap do they eat  A TON!), and spending more time with the family.  I know my child and he came to me because he wanted help, and I am listening and we are helping him on our terms, my son and mine.  He is adamant against drugs, he's even read they increase suicidal thoughts in teenagers.  He does not want to do that right now.  I appreciate all the advice but more people should heed the "drugs are not always the answer" advice.  Some things have no quick fix, I think this is one of those things. [/quote]

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