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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are a bean-counter. Accept it. But please try to remind yourself that others are not intentionally setting out to slight you or be unfriendly. [/quote]

Thank you for your perspective. Not the name calling though - not thanking you for that (does that qualify as said "bean-counting")? LOL[/quote]

"Bean-counting " is not necessarily pejorative. It is descriptive as to how people view relationships. This is how you view the world - in transactional terms. Not something I particularly enjoy in a friendship, but I also accept that this is an ingrained part of your personality. I'm sure there's some kind of Myers-Briggs kind of scale that maps out how people approach friendships.

But seriously, invite people for dinner because you enjoy cooking. If you don't like it, don't do it. Order in catered food or agree to meet friends at a restaurant. We're not really living in a dinner-party world here. I don't think I've been invited to a sit down dinner in ages, but have been to cookouts. I don't have great outdoor spaces, so I do more "open houses" with a spread of food. If you think some of your friends are "users", drop them. But other than that, I see people when I see people. [/quote]

Again thanks for your advise in the last para. With regard to your comment earlier on this post: I am sure there is also a  Myers-Briggs code for people who view the world in "essentialized" terms based on very limited information. Not a trait a would particularly find appealing in a friend. But hey, who am I to judge. I think another poster on this thread said it best: This thread pretty much sums up why everyone is not friends with everyone. [/quote]

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