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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]wow, OP. Her son is not a normal functioning adult, he has medical issues that are complicated. What do you expect her to do? Just ship him off to an institution?
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Yes that they have been talking about doing. The sooner he does the more of a chance he has at overcoming this and starting to live a life of semi normalcy. They are not helping anyone by him being put up in his room. At almost 24 he has no skills, no education, no job,etc....it is a fact that the vast majority of young adults who go into intensive residential therapy come out markedly improved. She knows this but as her friend I feel like I should gently encourage her to really start thinking about this as not only an option but something she needs to do. First and foremost for him and then secondly for their family.[/quote]

I'm on your side, OP.  I have a friend who will be 40 this year who is still being enabled by his parents... he's also still living with them, can't hold a job, etc.  I am sure it is so hard to consider sending a child away for treatment but I can tell you for sure it's so hard watching a 40 year old man repeat the same pattern because he knows he can crash at his parents' house anytime he needs to, no matter what he's done, under any circumstances.  This is a person with a criminal record, in fact he didn't call me on birthday in 2014 because he was in jail.  What did his parents do when he got out?  Bought him another car, part of his new charges was crashing up the last one but "he needs it" if he's ever going to get a job though he has never held a job in his life short of "working" with his dad, when he shows up.

My friend had 3 younger brothers who have all managed to be successful, I believe their parents were just lucky that the other boys chose a completely opposite path and didn't follow their brother down his.  [/quote]
Uhh..big difference between crazy and being lazy.
DUH![/quote]

My friend has drug and mental health issues, which is why I posted here, because it's relevant.  DUH![/quote]

Different poster here but you said that his siblings "chose an opposite path", as if a person with mental illness has any choice in the matter. His brothers didn't suffer with the same illness, right? So gimme a break![/quote]

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