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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]liquidate everything and divide it up[/quote]

I agree with this, but OP probably won't.  OP, we are in the same situation.  Sister took mom in, but took every penny from her, and charged her $400. monthly rent; sister also took all belongings, (pricey) family heirlooms, (expensive and beautiful) jewelry, china, silver, furniture, grandfather clock, you get the idea.  Sister knew exactly what she was doing, and sends me monthly emails trying to tell me that mother is "slipping" in her mental health.  Mother is sharper than any of us, but sister wants on record that mother was "losing it", somehow.  I have no more explanation than you, except to say that some people are givers, and some people are takers.  Call it what you want:  greedy vs. selfless, etc.

Know this:  you owe your sister no explanation, and she is NOT going to change.  Ever.  You saw her true colors.  FWIW, your sister, in this case, tried to make an effort, by dividing things up.  Clearly, she did not want to take care of your mother.

Would you have wanted to do so?  In our case, we are oil and water, so the option to take care of mother was not there. Besides, we have small children, and all I heard about my entire life was how amazing and flawless sister was.  So mother kind of made her bed, in that regard.

Can you cut your losses and call it a day?    [/quote]

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