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Do not host them, then, OP.  Do not.  Go home tonight and say, "It will no longer be possible for you to stay with us in our home.  I recommend _______ hotel and would be happy to help you make reservations."

She will hate you for it, but she already hates you and she's already a horrible person.  You haven't been to enough therapy if you have no idea how to draw boundaries with this person.  Stop being so passive.  Your DH is not willing to step up and protect your family from his parents' dysfunction.  So it's your job.  It sucks and you will be the bad guy to them, but you need to step up.  Your kids don't deserve this.  Stop it now.  Get them out of your house.  YOU are the mom.  It's your home, too.  [/quote]

This is what you do about your son's birthday.  Also, this pp had great advice.

[quote]Simply ignore the MIL. Seriously. Sounds like she's a miserable person and a pain. Just pretend she doesn't exist and enjoy your life. I wouldn't even mention the party or invitations. The MIL seems to shoot herself in the foot. You should have learned an important lesson, which is you shouldn't do nice things for her or go out of your way. So now you won't going forward.[/quote]

Seriously.  Tell them it is no longer possible for them to stay with you at your home.  recommend a hotel and then at the party ignore, ignore, ignore.  Pretend they are not there.  Don't be mean to them at all.  Pretend they are acquaintances and Mingle and HAVE FUN with the other guests.  For the sake of your sanity, your marriage, and your child.  Please.  Set these boundaries.  [/quote]

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