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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OW here. If hating me makes you feel better, I can take it.
The wife called me. He had been lying to the both of us. I don't think anyone sets out to destroy anyone's family.[/quote]

OP:  You had luxury of knowledge or the luxury to obtain knowledge if you wanted to open your eyes instead of your legs.  Lying to you????? Have you never googled people?  did you meet any of his friends relatives or children?  Go to his place?  Call him at his home phone instead of his cell all the time?  Pick him up from work? Go to the office Christmas party?  Why not?

I hope some of this anger directed at an anonymous stranger is also going to your husband who made vows to you. But I'll play. Since you seem to believe men only lie to their wives. I did Google him. Like many people in the D.C. area he's not from here, works all the time and has no friends. That's not all that uncommon just look around on dcum. He told me he didn't have a land line, no biggie I didn't either. I did go to his place. He had a separate apartment. I have met him at his job, but why would I pick him up? He has his own vehicle. No I never went to a Christmas Party and neither did he. He said it wasn't his thing.

Now boo effing hooo you want to state that you're not the evil home wrecker everyone thought you were because you didn't PLAN it.  You didn't SET out to do it but at the hundreds of steps on the way to bedding him, there was never a small opportunity where you have might have had an inkling of the start of a thought - that you couldn't have just stopped or thought of someone else.  No, because you got involved, you selfishly ignored the consequences, didn't do any due diligence  to look at the reasonableness of his story, just accepted it because you got what you wanted.

In the mean time, I have had nightmares, panic attacks, I cry for no reason, my dreams of old age with my spouse and grand children have been permanently changed, I  have had to become a single parent, move out of my house which is up for sale, my kids changed school systems, they're all in counseling, I'm in counseling. The kids as heartbreaking questions that I don't know how to answer. During all this, I had to bury my mother.

Cry me a river.

I am not crying. I never promised or sold you those dreams he did. So you hate me because I was deceived too? Girl get a grip. It's not the end of the world. People get divorced and remarry all the time. Maybe instead of focusing all of this rage on me you should try to salvage the pieces of what's left of your life.[/quote]

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