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[quote=Anonymous]OP here - so glad so many of you understand! Just a few things to address:

- we are in FL. It's really, really hot here. On weekends at home, of course DH and I alternate childcare while the other works out. But there are 4 other adults here so I was hoping we could both go out early before it got hot.

- of course we are capable of handling our kids. But they don't have their beds, their toys, their schedules, etc. They're overstimulated and underslept and a bit off their game.

- here's a concrete example. The family always takes hours to open gifts, one by one, hour after hour. This just doesn't work for the 13 month old - everyone sitting around for hours - but I don't want to disrupt tradition too much. If DH or I were to say we'll take him for a walk we would get "oh no, we can make it work!" So I asked, during his morning nap, if we could postpone the breakfast dishes (I'd happily do them later) and open some gifts while the little one was napping. Everyone kind of hemmed and hawed and lingered over coffee - totally their call but it would ease the stress on DH and me if just a few things could be tweaked to accommodate the little ones.

- I don't expect anone to nanny nor do I think my kids are anyone's responsibility but mine/DH's. That said, a little of the "village" mentality when it comes to the kids would make a difference.

Everyone slept better last night though, which helps. And I love the turn the thread took - you guys are great! I know in area years it'll be easier and I'm very grateful for how accommodating everyone has been overall.[/quote]

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