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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This particular story sounds fishy to me. Just doesn't feel right for some reason.[/quote]

NP: And all these posts questioning the timeline and saying OP's post sound fishy are fishy to me.  You sound like someone who identifies with OPs abusive DH.

OP's situation is way way too common, and way way too real.  And it rarely, rarely gets better on it's own.  OP if alcohol is the trigger for your husband, absolutely go through with your safety plan, get yourself and your kids out, and do not even discuss working things out unless he agrees to both alcohol abuse counseling and marriage counseling.  But don't trust words.  Words are not action, and no matter what promises he makes, you have time to see if he's going to keep them.  Do not go running back or fall for promises of a new day and his totally reformed behavior.  If he promises you those things, make him show you and your kids he can sustain whatever changes he's making over time before you go back.

Once you actually leave, there is often a honeymoon period full of remorse and promises and what looks like good, reformed behavior.  But without any other interventions it almost always downward spirals to an even lower, more violent level than it was before.

Good luck OP, good for you for doing the right thing for you and your kids.  Next time you MUST call the police.  Your DH needs to know you're not messing around, and you need to make sure there's a record of these incidences so if there's ever a custody battle, you have documented these issues.  Get copies of any police reports.  And DO call local domestic violence hotlines, DO make a real safetly plan for you and your kids until you actually leave, and DO understand that he will most likely seem to get much better (or just go straight to much worse), but either way, unless he also admits to his problems, horrible behavior, and takes responsibility, you can't trust any other promises of better times.  Limited contact with alcoholic abusive dad is better for your kids than living with alcoholic abusive dad.  [/quote]

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