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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SAHMs will get so offended if you tell them they don’t have a real job. But the second they don’t live up to their job duties, everyone rushes in to defend their laziness. Part of being a SAHM or Homemaker or whatever you want to call it is taking care of the bulk of the household responsibilities. That’s what you are home for…to take care of the kids and the house. If you cannot do this, then you are not living up to your end of the deal.

How would a SAHM feel if their husband found the job he has to be too stressful and too much work, so he’s going to switch to a job that has less benefit to the family? People would call him selfish and that he isn’t taking his family into consideration. It should be the same deal if a SAHM decides her husband needs to just deal with her inability to handle her responsibilities and nsists he accept the lowered standards.

Signed a former SAHM of 3 kids

(I work FT now, and this job is a break compared to running a household with kids. So I completely understand who much work, effort and thanklessness goes into being a SAHM…and the lack of sleep and the frustration of dealing with babies/toddlers ALL DAY LONG, with little adult interaction.)[/quote]

If you truly ever were a SAH (which I doubt given the tone and substance of your post), [b]it is nearly impossible to keep a house clean with a preschooler and a toddler.[/b]  It's clean for about 15 minutes at a time before the kids pull everything out again.

In any case, cleanliness is not the real issue here.  OP seemingly has no idea or insight into why his wife made a major life decision, and is apparently "afraid" to ask out it.  Whether the wife has valid reasons to be a SAH or is doing a good job as a SAH is irrelevant, if things are truly as OP describes, this couple needs marriage counseling ASAP.[/quote]

Sorry, that's BS.  I know plenty of SAHPs who manage to keep the house from falling into disaster, get laundry done, and have dinner going by the end of the day.  Spending your day crafting with your kids while the house is a mess and meals are prepared is not cool.

From OPs description, his wife made a unilateral decision to stop working, and that is not cool.  I would be livid if my husband did that.  [/quote]

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