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I second this.  Are you willing to take on daycare drop-offs/pick ups and getting kids ready in the morning?  How much cooking, cleaning and laundry will be on your plate if she goes back to work?  How about grocery shopping and taking kid's to pediatrician appointments?  She clearly felt the juggle wasn't working before, and it may just be because she was doing most of these tasks.

It's not really fair to say that you had an expectation that she would continue to work unless you also have a proven track record with helping with all of the non-paid household work.  Perhaps she feels [b]she has no choice but to stay at home [/b]because you don't help out as much with this stuff as you said you woud[/quote]
You say this like there is no choice but for the woman to stay at home. Of course there are choices. Paid childcare, paid housecleaning, ignoring the mess, getting takeout etc.  Plus, from what the OP said, it doesn't seem like the non-paid household work is getting done, anyway.  "I'm just gonna stay at home" is not a decision any spouse is allowed to make without the explicit consent and approval of the other. [/quote]

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