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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Frankly, I think the previous posts are missing the point. The system is totally rigged. Even if you lean in until you fall over (which is what I did with two small kids), women will continue to be treated like second class citizens at firms and companies.  This is not about work life balance, this is about treating women professionally, recognizing covert biases, and support women's professional growth -- like they do for men.

This is my favorite recent post on this subject:

http://abovethelaw.com/2014/10/stop-treating-women-lawyers-like-crap/[/quote]

That hasn't been my experience. I have exactly the same pay, status and accomplishments of my male coworkers. The falling behind will happen when I get pregnant and have to stop working 10 hour days (so I can actually see these kids!). In America we're so pro-corporation and fuck the individual. We work our asses off so that a corporation can make $$$ but when we want a family they're pissed off. I don't get overtime or paid for all the extra hours I put in. A little maternity leave and actually sticking to an 8 hour schedule would be nice. [/quote]

You don't want to hear this, BUT -- its also harder when you a mid thirties mom than it is when you are a 20 something professional young woman. Much, much harder. Whereas your male counterparts start to get welcomed into the fold. I am in biglaw and I got all kinds of opportunities when I was young and had great shoes etc. Its an image thing for many of these companies. Also something that has to change. [b]Accept older women.[[/b]/quote]

My cruelest and most painful experiences in my career usually come from younger professional women who try to move quickly through the ranks by using communication skills and their sexuality more than developing technical or business acumen. I am a woman in my 40s who never had children, and it was not because of my career or my selfishness. There were many other factors. However, because I am a woman with no kids, younger women often treat me with scorn and disdain, as if I am expecting them to be like me. I spent a good part of my 30s caring for my mother who was dying of cancer. There were no accommodations at work for that type of care, either.

Class differences are much more challenging to overcome than gender differences. Men who are first generation college students and professionals had a much more challenging time than women who followed their fathers footsteps into law, medicine, business.

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