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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To use your words, I think you should suck it up. Your kids are only 5 and 2. Just call her a friend.  Little kids are innocent at this age and are not at all aware of the sexual aspect of this situation.  If she feels comfortable staying in a hotel, let her.  Your brother should be free to bring whoever he is with at the time.  The ex is old news now, even though you liked him and miss him. Get with the program.  :) Sure it will be awkward, but it should make for an interesting holiday. The kids should be more interested in the holiday and not who is with whom.[/quote]

How old are your kids? My 4 year old would ask questions and my 6 year old would ask AWKWARD questions.  OP knows her kids best - if she thinks they won't notice then it's less of an issue.  But mine? They would notice and ask questions, and I'd be having conversations I really just don't want to deal with right now.  Not because of a sexual aspect but because of a relationship aspect: "what happened to uncle joe? Why isn't Uncle Sam with him anymore? When do we see uncle joe again? When did Uncle Sam meet miss Sally?  Will you and daddy break up too?" Etc. etc. And should it ever come up they would tell the Ex because kids tell the truth.

And did no one  else notice that OP's brother is simultaneously doing counseling with his 'ex' while keeping his new paramour a secret but planning to bring her to a family Christmas?  Admittedly my brother has kids so that changes things, but if he ever got into this situation with his wife I sure hope I'd ream him one for being a total dick and invite my SIL to Christmas.

As for the bisexuality issue - that seems like a total red herring in this discussion, and the genders of all parties seem irrelevant.

I'm sorry OP. I'm sure you're brother is actually a good person who is just behaving like an ass, and I know it's easy for me to say all this because I'm not dealing with it.  So my sympathy on having to deal with other people's messes.[/quote]

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