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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes so he's paying for half.  Shouldn't she also be paying for half?  20k x 2 is 40k.  40k x 18 years is $240,000 and meets the average above. [/quote]

Actually it's quite a bit less than $240,000.  And as I said, that is an average, taking into account kids who grew up in Tennesee and on food stamps and such.  The average for a NICE childhood is significantly higher, I'm sure.  The Washingtonian once estimated the yearly income required for living a nice life and raising kids right in DC to be 2 million a year.  Obviously, that is high, but there are different standards for giving your kid a nice life, and also for living in DC.  Maybe people should think of the actual CHILDREN and their quality of life instead of getting revenge on the "mean" ex wife.  JFC it's so immature I can't even deal...[/quote]

Ok but to clarify, that stat includes housing. In this situation that is the contribution without housing.  Also that's just the calculation based on the court ordered support.  They both maintain 4 br homes and pay lots for activities and enrichment stuff, vacations and whatnot. The kids are not on food stamps, in actuality they want for nothing.  I am being very honest when I say that, and they would agree. One of the silver linings of divorce and remarriage is that they get everything from everyone- I do the nice vacations, dad gets the cell phones etc, grandparents send gift cards for clothes etc.  There is so much giving going on that they send out a list every year to me, DH, mom, all three sets of grandparents (includes my parents) two sets of uncles (my bro and DH's bro) on what they want for birthdays and Christmas and we all deconflict the list and they pretty much get everything.  Please don't think the kids want or need for anything. In actuality we worry that we are spoiling them.  They have iPhones, iPads, Xbox, wii, our family is the poster child for American consumption.  Anyway thanks to all for the insights esp the helpful advice, in particular, to start to debit out what is owed from the airfare. [/quote]

Of course you're just going to ignore the advice that you're in the wrong, and take the advice that suits you.   :roll: About what I would expect in maturity from everything else youve said.

You know, that has to be one of the smallest perks I've heard of.  These kids have to deal with the emotional wreckage of divorce, and a teensy benefit they get is that they have iPads and such (like most normal children in the US).  You have admitted you are doing well, so why would you even think of causing an issue for the ex wife, who is now functioning as a single mom?  I implore you (and I'm sure you will like this option much less than the sycophantic ones) to put yourself in her shoes and think of how you would respond if your husband decides one day to leave you, and you will have to raise your child with him on your own?  Do you really, genuinely think that $500 a month would be enough?  Especially for a teenager, who is going to innately be status conscious and have a lot going on?

Then again, I doubt I will get an honest answer from you since you have complained about and seem to be going through an existential crisis over the cost of lice shampoo.

Goddamn, I hate cheap, petty people.[/quote]

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