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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I went to sleepovers all the time as a kid and have many happy memories of those parties.  Decades later, I'm still close friends with several women who were my childhood friends.  I cherish those friendships.  My DD, who's a young teen, frequently hosts sleepovers and goes to the homes of close friends for sleepovers.  The same was true for her older brothers, who are now in college.  We usually limit the party to no more than 3 or 4 kids at a time and have never had a problem.

This thread has made me very grateful to my parents, who immigrated to the US from another country where sleepovers were not the norm.  They understood that my sibs and I were growing up in a different culture with different social rituals than they had experienced.  Of course they took steps to know the parents of our friends so they would feel comfortable with allowing us to stay at their homes.  Similarly, DH and I make an effort to know the parents of our children's friends.  This isn't hard to do and often leads to lovely friendships among the adults.

As far as having older brothers in the house where the sleepover is held.  When we host, we always tell parents of our guests that we have two older sons, so they can decide if they feel comfortable with that.  We know our sons, we know their friends and we trust them, but we do also monitor things very closely.  When we have guys sleeping over, they go to the basement and the girls sleep upstairs on the same floor as we do.  To be honest, we have had more problems with getting the younger girls to let the older guys have some space.  In particular, the girls who don't have brothers are fascinated by DS and his friends.  It's interesting because our DD, who has grown up with many guys around the house -- she also has 4 male cousins -- doesn't share that besotted attitude toward teen guys! [/quote]

+1000

This is very true, I can relate very much to your post!

My immigrant parents were very much "against" sleep overs.  By middle school, my parents decided "When in Rome, do as the Romans do..." was fitting, and so they did.  Some of the best memories I have of growing up  were of me and my best buddies staying up late chatting.  We are still great friends, in fact.  There certainly was never anything creepy or untoward going on.  But then again, my parents were sure to take the time to know the other parents. My parents knew that was their responsibility.

I have both brothers and sisters, and now my own boys and girls. It never once occurred to me that parents would be judging a family so harshly - for having boys????  I agree with PP that the girls without brothers are the most curious and aggressive toward being with the boys (who quite frankly, want nothing to do with the girls because they are busy playing sports outside) when visiting our house, so we quickly learn to keep those particular girls away from our sons.  The girls don't get the attention they want/need, and they try to blame the oblivious boys, and those girls are really too much work.

This will get flamed, but I am under the distinct impression that one or two posters have been assaulted themselves, and are looking to place blame somewhere.  Sleepovers???  Really???? [/quote]

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