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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]" Just because you think your life sucked, and your husband ignored you and couldn't tolerate you (he couldn't), doesn't mean mine has to, also. My MIL getting married was a way for her to get out of middle America dustbowl hell. She resents that I am the exact opposite. What am I supposed to do, be something I'm not, to make her happy? "

Above quoted part is how I feel. My MIL is a nice lady, but I think she resents me because I've had a "charmed life" unlike her and her daughter. Unlike them, I've never really had to worry about money, outsource some housework, my DH is really involved with the childcare which FIL never was, etc. I can understand why she'd be resentful on some level, but this is my life, who I am. I can't change it and don't have to be apologetic for it.

We are very polite and civil, but she makes negative comments dircted at me sometimes which is very hurtful because she is doesn't do that to anyone else. [/quote]

+100000

MIL's do NOT make it easy for the DIL when the DIL is prettier, smarter, more successful, from a nicer upbringing, etc.  There are a million things that could set any MIL off.  Instead, they want to redirect to the DIL - the DIL who is fairly new to the family - how much sense does THAT make??!!   Would they prefer DH have married someone with nothing to offer?

At the very least, MIL's should try to conceal their jealousy about the younger DIL, instead of being so very transparent.  I would be thrilled if my son was happy, and I would NOT try to stir the pot, so to speak.

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