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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. Apparently no one here has ever worked in advertising and everyone here has a stick up his/her ass. I agree you husband was a fool for getting stuck in the situation, but it doesn't really sound like a big deal to me based on the situation. [/quote]

Uhhh..he asked a co-worker for nudes.  LOL  Not a big deal?  LOL[/quote]

NO HE DIDNT (I'm not OP or PP).  I swear, people can't read. [/quote]

You are right....he asked a colleague if she had any nude pics of the person they were hiring! Makes it so much better and more excusable.   :roll:[/quote]

Again, I'm not OP or PP, and the comment was stupid and immature, [b]but he was obviously joking and not asking for actual pics.  Do people really not get that? [/b] [/quote]

I am not at all surprised that the woman didnt say anything directly to him (referring to OPs comment), and just because it's a joke doesn't mean its OK to say.

When I was young and new to the office environment, I was filing in a file cabinet that was very low to the ground.   A much older, more senior male colleague "joked" about me being "on my knees, where a woman belongs". I half laughed at his comment because I was 20 and it took me totally by surprise, but I did go directly to HR and his supervisor.  It made me so uncomfortable and was incredibly inappropriate. I actually have no idea what happened to him or what the consequences were, but the company took it very seriously as a sexual harassment case, even if he was "clearly joking and not asking me to actually give him a blow job".[/quote]

not even close to the same thing.  what you are describing is clearly harassment.  what OP's husband did is not.[/quote]

Bullpuckeys. Op's husband made an inappropriate sexual comment, and should  be held accountable. [/quote]

I don't know how to make it clearer.  Tell me if you see the difference between these two situations:

a[b]) Office discussion of how crazy it is that people send nude pics with job applications.  Person A sends Person B a question about an applicant.  Person B says "are there any nude pics?  You know, like that crazy situation we were laughing about?  Can you believe people do that?"[/b]

b) Male colleague asks female colleague for nude pics of herself.

c) Senior male colleague making comment about female intern on her knees "where women belong."

It seems that a) is closest to what happened.

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obviously I meant 3 situations.  The top one is inappropriate, sure.  The bottom two are harassment.[/quote]

Right, but pretend for a minute that the female coworker wasnt part of that conversation (maybe OP's husband thought she was and she wasn't really there, who knows) and the comment really was "Got any nude picks? oops wrong convo! lol jkjk"  you can see how the female coworker took it more like (b) than like (a) (not knowing that he was referencing a previous conversation) and thought he was really asking for nude picks of an applicant. Then she would be uncomfortable, not confront him, and go straight to HR. It was inappropriate, and to the person the comment was directed at, could have been seen/ taken as harassment.  If that was the case, I would still fault OPs husband, and not the woman who turned him in. [/quote]

if she thought that's what he meant, sure, she'd be correct to turn him in.  but that doesn't mean that her interpretation is correct or is what he intended.

i suspect this is what happened - she thought HE was asking HER for nude pics.  stupid of him to speak colloquially like that?  yes.  but he wasn't harassing her if his intention was similar to that in scenario a) above.[/quote]

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