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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ask your DH to spell out the sleeping arrangements.  It sounds like he hasn't thought through them.  Ask what he thinks you both should do when DC doesn't nap.[/quote]

I don't agree with this.  My DH is/was abused and taken advantage of by his family.  He never learned to deal with it.  DH's abusive family relies on the fact that DH will not stand up to them.  They very much resent what DH has, in every way, even/especially the bitter MIL.  In fact, it seems to bother them more as they get older.

Don't expect DH to spell everything out for such thoughtless cads, no matter how predictable and tiresome they are.  Really, just write about it on your blog for all of your friends and family to see - "what they did AGAIN this year, as predicted!"  They should really be called out on their awfulness.

I mean spell it out to his wife.  Maybe as he says "Mom and Dad will sleep here, Ann and Bill will sleep here, their kids will be here, you and I will be here . . . oh wait - where will Mary and Charlie go?"  he will see that there is physically no space.  Or maybe at 8pm when you throw down the air mattresses on the living room floor for the kids and insist on turning all the lights off for bedtime then everyone will get the hint!

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Puuuhlease.  If this was DH's family, they would look at someone expecting R&R on their own terms as if they had three heads.  You're supposed to play by their arbitrary rules. Only "certain" (read: arbitrary, usually the non-blood BIL's, for some reason) "family" members get their say in the family.  As for DH, he has to work and does not have cushy hours or limitless vacation time.  Its him, that it, he runs the show.  We may or may not be able to stay the whole time, and I may or may not be up for it.  That's the way it is.  MIL does not dictate what we do, we are not aged ten. MIL needs to get over it.  We have our own family and do not answer to them or anyone else.  Cramming all of us in uncomfortable quarters is doing no one any favors, trust me, its no vacation.  In fact, it is sacrifice of precious time and money, but MIL only thinks of herself and appearances.  Makes me sick.

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