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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think people are saying something about the marriage being in trouble because of the number of people sharing a house.  It is the fact that OP is clearly not pleased with this but cannot say anything to DH because he wouldn't allow anything different. I cannot imagine DH forcing me into a situation that I hated, especially when there is a reasonable alternative. [/quote]

This.  The OP says she can't ask for a hotel room because it would be the end of her marriage, her husband would never allow it, etc.  That's the problem--her husband is forcing her to do something she clearly does not want to do, and she thinks she can't object.  This is a bad dynamic, and its the source of the problem.  [/quote]

[b]I highly doubt the husband would just walk away from the family because she didn't go on vacation. Finding a wife and having a family is often a big deal for South Asian families and the once I know don't divorce on a whim. If Op actually knows he would walk away and divorce her if she doesn't go, then she shouldn't go and she should let it happen as living every day under the threat of divorce if you don't do exactly what you are told is pointless. Then she can leave and have a much better life.[/b] [/quote]

Agreed. I think OP is being a drama queen.  She wants some sympathy because she probably has not been able to assimilate with the rest of the family and wants to paint it as a clash of culture instead of personality.

Maybe she resents that her DH wants to spend time with his parents and other brothers etc...

She had the choice in the first place to marry the guy, and she has the choice to divorce him if things are bad - however, I do not think she wants to really divorce a high earning Doctor/Engineer/Lawyer/Businessman - as her DH probably is. [/quote]

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