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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A group of close friends hanging out at a bar together is intimidating to a man. Not many would walk up to a group of women like that and those who would aren't necessarily looking for a relationship.

If you want to be approachable, you have to sometimes be alone. Not alone alone, as in walking down a dark alley alone but in a social setting where people are mingling and switching up conversation partners often enough - like the interest based meet up groups PPs recommended, young adult night at a church, a sport, etc. You need to pursue your interests with people who share your interests so you & the men you meet can have something to chat about and connect over off the bat.

Also, watch your body language - says a lot about whether you'd welcome some one's interest. [b]After a tough break up, I found that I wore a "F off" stamped on my forehead for like a year even though I didn't mean to - no one really pursued me in that year. When I realized what I was doing and made more of an effort to be open and friendly, I got a lot of interest. [/b]

Lastly, proactively express your interest. And keep the stats of DC in mind so you don't assume it's all you - some women are simply going to be single in this town, and there will be more single women than men. That's just a facet of DC. [/quote]

When I first saw my DH, he kind of had the same "stamp" on his forehead. He was bad news. 2 years later, we dated and I found out that he had just gotten out of a bad relationship. You would be surprised how much your feelings are being broadcast (for lack of a better word,) by an "aura." I met my husband at work.

These women are looking at the wrong type of men for the wrong reasons. Men need to have ambition and be employed. They also need to have a great sense of humor and want the same things. For me, my DH has a dark sense of humor, like I do. I wanted one marriage, and was willing to give it everything I had. He wanted the same thing deep down but was afraid to admit it. He had a rough childhood and in his experience, everyone wanted to use him. I was the first person who wanted to help him, expecting nothing in return. We were friends long before we became lovers.

Good luck, OP.

-Fiona (happily married to Shrek.)[/quote]

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