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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone else struck by this thread about a seemingly well-adjusted Penn freshman taking her life and the 2 parallel threads about "disappointed by list of colleges where kids are going" and "silly helicopter parents going to orientation at kids' college". I don't have the answer but I did have the shock of my life by a phone call with my freshman DS when I started to fear he was "at risk."  We took a few immediate steps and he just graduated with honors. So it all turned out fine, and who knows if it would have been fine without our intervention. The whole thing was so out of character for him and still haunts me a bit. [/quote]

The thing is, there's a large area between helicoptering and abandoning your kid at orientation. You've painted the extreme poles, but that's not helpful or conducive to discussion.

Instead, many on that thread, including me, posted to say that we don't hover. But we do phone or Skype once a week, and we text multiple times a week.[/quote]
Glad to hear that my personal experience is of no help to you. I found it to be exactly relevant to the discussion. But since you skype and text (which we do too), I'm sure nothing scary will ever happen to you or your kids. Must feel good to have it all figured out. [/quote]

Guessing that if you hadn't characterized other points of view as "silly," you would have got a better reception. You probably deliberately insulted several posters. If you want respect, you should give respect.[/quote]
I was attempting to characterize a 7 page thread in under 10 words. You felt so deliberately insulted that you felt free to trivialize another poster's concern over a potentially-suicidal DS?  Bully for you.  [/quote]

I'm a little surprised that you took such offense at that pp who basically said the same thing you did - that you talk to your kid over the phone.  Why such umbrage?!  Also, you said "at risk" in your 1st post, but "at risk" =/= "suicidal" which you put in your second post -- and yet you slam him/her for not intuiting that there was a risk of suicide.

It seems like you're trying to pick a fight out of thin air.

Looks like you've followed up with a few more barrages since this one. You need to simmer down
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