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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am not sure why a lot of PPs are insisting BPD occurs only in individuals who are abused.  This is not correct, although there is significant overlap.

It is a disorder of emotional dysregulation, and there is evidence via PET scans that there are abnormalities in the function of the amygdala, thought to be the seat of the emotions.

In addition, BPD individuals tend to have a highly refined ability to read faces and, thus, pick up the slightest hint of negative emotion, which they take to heart.  One way of thinking of BPD individuals is that they are at the extreme end of the emotionally thin skinned.

Yes, they are very difficult to deal with, but [b]they also suffer greatly from their emotional neediness and often seek solace in drugs and alcohol.  When they become overwhelmed by all the emotional input they are constantly taking in they often contemplate suicide.  Their life is hell.[/b]  [/quote]

Well put, PP.  Perhaps this can help others to have some [b]empathy for people with BPD[/b].  [/quote]

Nope. No empathy here.

To me, it's a lot like the difference between having empathy and sympathy for someone who commits suicide, versus someone who commits a murder-suicide. Neither are ok, but if you're struggling, just you, within you, pretty much alone in you, I can have sympathy. I feel for that. I would want to support and help a person who is struggling within.

But to act out your pain on others? To abuse others? To burden others? To bring others down with you? Hell no. Not an iota of sympathy. People with BPD aren't struggling alone - it is characteristic of them to project, through abuse (not necessarily physical abuse) onto others. Manipulation is abuse. Lying to hurt others is abuse. People with BPD hurt others tremendously, with an emotional pummel after emotional pummel.  I do not have empathy for abusers.

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+100. I had a brief relationship with a man with BPD who then made my life hell for several years; I was very often in fear of my life. I finally moved out of state just to get away from him.

No sympathy, no empathy, not a shred of anything but rage that this a$$hole screwed up my life for so long.[/quote]

Count your blessings you didn't have a baby with him, like I did.[/quote]

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