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[quote=Anonymous]A cheating spouse is devastating, 21:26 you were lucky to catch it early before feelings were developed.  My husband professed "love" to his partner.

I found their emails, he routinely complained to her about spending time with me and us in general.  Example: we'd take our children to Sweet Frog after dinner frequently.  After one of our trips for dessert, he emailed her about our outing and wished he'd be able to go with her instead, blah blah blah.  While we were out with our family, he acted no differently, he was engaging and seemed to enjoy spending time with us.

They carried on their affair for about 3 years, became physical 5 months before discovery.  Once I confronted him he said it was just "high school" love and didn't mean anything.  He even tried to convince me he told a lot of people he loved them (mutual friends, etc) and it didn't mean anything.  My therapist contributes his feelings for her to "the fog" that most people having affairs are in.  They will say/do anything to keep the affair going and also keep it from discovery.

So PP, consider yourself lucky that you only have deception to deal with.  That it was too soon to turn physical and feelings and the fog weren't given time to develop.  It was too soon to have memories robbed from you of things you enjoyed doing because of his affair.

I wish you good luck in your healing.  Keep going to MC, don't stop until a few months after you think you may not need it anymore.  I was good for a few months, now not so much.  [/quote]

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