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Whether StepMom or just plain Mom, it is definitely true that children and their activities can definitely rule the roost unless there is clear communication.  How much tweens or kids of any age can do really can depend on the time parents have available to get them to and from, whether parent participation is expected in the activity as with practices, carpooling the team members as well as the expense of the sports, musical or other activities.  I think the family budget and the number of children would also be key factors to weigh.

OP needs to start with an honest conversation with her DH about the aspects of the current situation which bother her and express how she sees things working out in a fairer way for all with say the next school year of activities.  Parents need to determine what they value most at a certain time as it may change with stages of children  in terms of their family life with the kids, their time together AND what they can make happen in terms of transportation, direct time involvement as for practices, and cost.  And then present the options to the tweens to give them the valuable life lesson of learning to make a decision and prioritize "wants."  It may be in terms of the number of outside activities beyond school, it may be a travel team in one sport versus summer camp or only so many weeks of camp.  Above all, you do need to become an active participant in the decision-making process that works best for your family.  Start with your husband first.[/quote]

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