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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH's family lives out of town. God forbid we stay in a hotel on visits. This leaves us with a choice of staying with (1) his fun dad and stepmom in their big, comfy house; (2) his brother's family in their house where we my DH, me, and baby must share one bedroom and there is only one bathroom for everyone; and (3) his mother's one bedroom, one bath condo. We choose option 1. MIL is upset that we don't stay with her.  Even though intellectually I know this is unreasonable (there is nowhere for baby to sleep quietly and husband and I have to sleep in an air mattress in living room) I feel guilty. We always make sure to visit with everyone when we are in town but MIL displays no ability to understand why we won't sleep at her place. Am I crazy? Do I need to suck it up and throw her a bone or is my position understandable? FWIW, DH doesn't want to stay there but he feels guilty too. I just feel, as a self-sufficient adult, that it should be okay that I don't want to have a miserable night's sleep and tiptoe around so as not to wake the baby. Right? [/quote]

Your DH needs to tell her that you need your own space. Then tell her the discussion is CLOSED. IF she continues to bring it up, he needs to give her ONE warning saying that if it's going to be a problem where SHE is creating stress then you two will plan a vacation that will make you comfortable and go somewhere ELSE- not visiting family.

She's upset that you are "choosing" her ex instead of her. It's an ego thing. If DH can alleviate her fears it will probably solve the problem. (But since you say he is "fun" dad and don't mention anything about MIL, I'm guessing you prefer to stay with FIL regardless of the sleeping arrangements.)[/quote]

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